It’s been a long time since Brad, and I have planned out the new year without including plans for infertility treatments, foster care, or adoption. It’s strange. We have a lot of mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, we’re relieved. We can relax and find another path. On the other hand, we’re sad and frustrated because we fought so hard and for so long and it didn’t work.
We’re working on accepting all the emotions that accompany our situation. However, we have to continually remind ourselves of how amazing our life is right now, and all the progress we made getting here. Here is a look at how we’re trying to celebrate who we are and where we are in life.
Count Your Blessings
Brad and I have a lot of blessings. We could sit around and stew about how we don’t have kids (and sometimes we do) but, it’s crucial for us to remember the blessings we do have. It’s not about discounting our trials, or “at least-ing” our way to happy thoughts. It’s about sitting down and genuinely feeling gratitude for Heavenly Father’s blessings.
Build Each Other Up
Sometimes it feels like the world only wants to talk about what you’re not. Comments like “Oh, you’ll have kids one day, I’m sure.” Or, “It’s too bad, you would have made wonderful parents” can make you feel pretty bad about yourself. That’s why it’s so vital for Brad and me to take every opportunity we can to talk about each other’s talents and positive attributes. We try to build each other up with sincerity to help negate some of the world’s focus on what we’re not.
Positive self-talk is one of the things I struggle with the most. However, it’s also one of the most powerful tools for improving self-esteem. I’m working on it. I consciously try to think about the skills I have, the qualities I like about myself, and my worth. My goal is to celebrate myself as a Daughter of God, a wife, a writer, a sister, and all the other amazing things that I am.
Heavenly Father put us here, so here is where we are supposed to be. We try to practice being in the moment and finding the joy and the unique opportunities in our current situation. There is joy in the journey if you look for it. We try to focus on this part of our journey and find as much joy as we can.
Sometimes, it’s not easy to celebrate who you are and where you are. However, there are hosts of things to celebrate about yourself and your life. The key is to work together moment by moment. It takes practice, but it’s worth the effort. Remember, you are a child of God. He loves you and wants you to be happy. If you follow Him, and trust in Him, he will lead you to joys beyond your wildest dreams.